Sin, why can’t I just forget about it and move on? Why does the church make it a big deal and ask us to confess to a priest? A question we always ask ourselves when we are confronted with the Sacrament of Repentance and Confession.
Do I have to confess to the priest? Why can’t I just confess to God in private? Is confession Biblical? These are all questions that we ask to try finding a way not to perform this sacrament.
Understanding the magnitude of sin will help us understand the need for the sacrament.
Sin is not just missing the mark(as the Greek name ἁμαρτία (hamartia) means). Sin is disobedience to God’s commandments which brings death and causes our separation from Him who is the source of true life. Throughout the Bible, sin is equated to death. In addition, sin is committed against members of the body of Christ, so also has a community aspect. Since the basic tenants of the commandments are to love God and your neighbor (Mark 12:30-31), a sin would be against God, the neighbor, and myself. Sin causes a feeling of anxiety and guilt because God has put in our hearts His Law (Jer 31:33). But this can soon turn into callous and cold heart (Eph 4:18).
Dealing with all the results of sin does not happen by just feeling sorry about what I did, nor by simply deciding not to do it again. Feelings alone cannot remove the death that entered into my life due to sin. Realizing my sin and feeling remorse is the first step. This is what the Prodigal son did when he started his journey back home (Luke 15:17), but this step was followed by action and a request of forgiveness (Luke 15:21). The sacrament of repentance and confession removes the result of sin in my life and restores my joy and happiness by lifting away the burden of sin.
Repentance has several steps
- Realizing that I have sinned and desiring to change
- Feeling regret for my actions, thoughts, feelings, weaknesses, or lack of being good
- Confessing my sin to God in the presence of the priest (will discuss that in a moment)
- Fixing the results of my sin if it was directed against someone else
- Receiving the forgiveness of sin
Let’s discuss each of these points, their Biblical proof, and practical implementation.
First step in repentance requires me to wake up to my awful sinful state. Our society trains us to reject any feelings of guilt or shame for our actions, feelings, or thoughts (Isa 5:20). This is why we need to examine ourselves daily against God’s Word; to remind ourselves of what is right and what is wrong. It is only when I realize that I have transgressed against God’s Word that I will begin to realize that I have sinned and feel regret to my actions. “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 10 If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.”(1Jn 1:8-10)
Feeling sorry for what I did is an important part of the repentance process “For godly sorrow produces repentance to salvation, which brings no regret. But the sorrow of the world produces death.”(2 Co 7:10). Understanding that I have saddened the one who loves me the most and died for me makes me realize the magnitude of my error. If my sin has impacted others by words or by actions, this will also increase my feelings of guilt and sorrow. David the prophet used these feelings of remorse to bring him back to God rather than push him farther away from Him (Psalm 50 Septuagint). If I don’t feel sorry for my actions, why would I confess? Also, bottling up one’s sins leads to failure socially, emotionally, and spiritually “He who covers his sins will not prosper, But whoever confesses and forsakes them will have mercy.”(Pro 28:13)
Sin is ultimately against God “Against You, You only, have I sinned, and done this evil in Your sight. Psalm 50:4).
Acknowledging my sin in front of God is an essential step for the forgiveness of my sin, as sin is transgression to His commandment and an offense towards Him (1Jn 1:9).
So why does it have to happen before the priest? Why not between God and I in my bedroom or some other quiet place? Actually, the confession in my bedroom is an essential step for true repentance prior to the confession before the priest.
Christ gave the Apostles the authority to bind and release sins “22 And when He had said this, He breathed on them, and said to them, “Receive the Holy Spirit. 23 If you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them; if you retain the sins of any, they are retained.”. (Joh 20:22-23)
It is by this authority that the priests give the absolution. The priests do not forgive sins, only God does. However, the priests are acting as God’s agents exercising the authority He entrusted them with.
From the Old Testament, when anyone sinned they would go to the altar, confess in front of the priest and offer a sacrifice (Lev 5:5,6). After David confessed his sins, Nathan the Prophet told him that his sin was transferred from him (2 Sam 12:13). At the time of the Apostles people confessed their deeds publicly “And many who believed came and confessed and showed their deeds.” (Act 19:18). St. Paul punished the sinner of Corinth (1 Co 5:3-4) and then allowed him back to the church (2 Co 2:6). These are some examples to show the role and authority of the priesthood in the forgiveness of sins.
Confessing in front of the priest is also important as a witness to my repentance and to keep me accountable. The priest’s responsibility is also to give guidance, permission for the sacrament, punishment (if needed), and support. He is a father (1 Co 4:15) who is guided by the Holy Spirit to help us in our journey of repentance.
When the priest gives the absolution, his role (through the work of the Holy Spirit) is to transfer the sin from you to Christ who will carry away your sins on the cross.
The commandment is clear, ”without shedding of blood is no remission” (Heb 9:22). “and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin”(1Jn 1:7)
Also, feeling embarrassed from confessing in front of the priest is helpful in making me realize that what I am doing is embarrassing and not appropriate.
If my sin has offended anyone, Christ commands us to go and reconcile with that person first (Math 5:23-24). We need to make sure that the impact of sin is dealt with.
The Sacrament of repentance and confession is the process by which our sins are transferred to the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of all of us.(Jn 1:21).
It is the process by which we are washed and cleansed from our sins (John 13:8-10).
Only sinners need to be saved and redeemed. Christ came for the sick and not the healthy (Mark 2:17).
We need to acknowledge that we are sick in need of salvation and redemption (1Jn 1:6-10). Only then we will accept our savior and be able to participate in the sacrament in an active way to benefit from it and to be renewed to the image God planned for each of us, His own image.